I was in born with this quality of jealousy. Still have my childhood memories fresh me being jealous towards my brother when born. I never allowed my mother to cuddle him, breastfeed him or sleep with him, whenever i was around. my whole day spent at school was just thinking about mother sharing her love to the newly born villain in my life.It went to that extent that i failed in many tests,my teachers got worried as i was found quiet and engrossed in deep thoughts.This was notified to my parents and they tried to do their best but in vain,it was gone when i started loving my brother after 3 years.That was my first experience of being jealous.
Jealousy and envy are different but generally different cultures uses envy as a synonym for jealousy.While envy is were a person may envy the characteristics of a person or possessions unlike jealousy were a person is an emotion triggered not to loose a person or an emotion or a relation in a romantic relationship.As William Shakespeare uses the term green eyed monster,the color green is often associated with jealousy.Many factors involved in the development of jealousy from socio biological,cultural,historical,relational and situational.(Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jealousy)
Monogamy has the benefit of family protection to old,woman and children unlike polygamy.Epic of Ramayana also high lights the monogamy even though Hindu shastrakaras permitted bigamy and polygamy but since the amendment of Hindu Marriage act 1955 polygamy is prohibited. Unlike Islam, Christianity, Judaism,Paganism promotes monogamy.So it makes a relationship more stable emotionally and socially leading to a healthy future generation.(.http://www.importantindia.com/2832/monogamy-in-hinduism-hindu-monogamy/)
Currently as part of the technological advancement varied views is developing amidst the youngsters about promoting polygamy or just to be in an open relationship without morality.Due to these contributing factors sweetness in a relationship is seen fading while jealousy is viewed in a bad context ,as it restricts the person to the laws of morality.This emotion of someone loving you to that extent that he/she reacts angrily as an alert to their partner about the behavior which will be a threat to their relationship in future.Thus there will be anger,resentment,helplessness and disgust ,these reactions should be understood and steps shall be taken to strengthen the relationship ensuring the jealous couple with honesty and love.
Strongly i suggest, jealousy as an emotion seen only in true love as the person in love want him/her not to be shared physically and emotionally to anyone.When your supposed partner doesn’t cares what you do or who you roll with and you misunderstand that its due to trust or security then you are totally wrong.Either he/she doesn’t love you enough or he / she has separate partner elsewhere. A couple genuinely loving each other will never deceit the partner and progressively work towards a stronger lifetime relationship which is the foundation for a stronger family and society. So acknowledge your partners jealousy and feel proud that he/she loves you so much that your diverted focus made her/him so disturbed. Never think it as your partners dominance over you until it leads to physical or psychological abuse, as generally people think it as a sign of dominance.
Courtesy to :1).Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jealousy