Is jealousy a sign of true love ?



I was in born with this quality of jealousy. Still have my childhood memories fresh me being jealous towards my brother when born. I never allowed my mother to cuddle him, breastfeed him or sleep with him, whenever i was around. my whole day spent at school was just thinking about mother sharing her love to the newly born villain in my life.It went to that extent that i failed in many tests,my teachers got worried as i was found quiet and engrossed in deep thoughts.This was notified to my parents and they tried to do their best but in vain,it was gone when i started loving my brother after 3 years.That was my first experience of being jealous.


Jealousy as per Bevan, 2004, pp 195)
  • Jealousy is defined as a protective reaction to a perceived threat to a valued relationship, arising from a situation in which the partner’s involvement with an activity and/or another person is contrary to the jealous person’s definition of their relationship.” (courtesy:
    Wikipedia: )

Jealousy and envy are different but generally different cultures uses envy as a synonym for jealousy.While envy is were a person may envy the characteristics of a person or possessions unlike jealousy were a person is an emotion triggered not to loose a person or an emotion or a relation in a romantic relationship.As William Shakespeare uses the term green eyed monster,the color green is often associated with jealousy.Many factors involved in the development of jealousy from socio biological,cultural,historical,relational and situational.(Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jealousy)


Is being jealous the sign of  true love ? This question brewed bigger in my brain as i discovered generally in love life, it turn out to be a disaster to that extent where a man or woman may feels suffocated.This was my turning point in life to restructure this inborn trait of being jealous.After my research online and offline through several articles,i realized  yes, being jealous is the sign of true love.But if your partner never realizes this feeling,then it will end up in misunderstandings and eventually break up.Many relationships died mercilessly due to misunderstanding of this particular aspect of love.

Being in a romantic relationship is a mutual commitment a man and a woman make towards each other on the basis of morality .This doesn’t mean, one is cuffed in a relationship,its an alarm to the couple to reconsider their relationship by working on the weaker aspect in a relationship.Monogamy is one of the other prime most reason for jealousy .Couples commit emotionally,physically and sexually to each other despite of any harsh situations in life.As per the ancient Hindu famous writer of Kamasutra Vatsayana, “a man can only please a woman physically,mentally and spiritually.”
Monogamy has the benefit of family protection to old,woman and children unlike polygamy.Epic of Ramayana also high lights the monogamy even though Hindu shastrakaras permitted  bigamy and polygamy but since the amendment of Hindu Marriage act 1955 polygamy is prohibited. Unlike Islam, Christianity, Judaism,Paganism promotes monogamy.So it makes a relationship more stable emotionally and socially leading to a healthy future generation.(.http://www.importantindia.com/2832/monogamy-in-hinduism-hindu-monogamy/)
   

Currently as part of the technological advancement varied views is developing amidst the youngsters about promoting polygamy or just to be in an open relationship without morality.Due to these contributing factors sweetness in a relationship is seen fading while jealousy is viewed in a bad context ,as it restricts the person to the laws of morality.This emotion of  someone loving you to that extent that he/she  reacts angrily as an alert to their partner about the behavior which will be a  threat to their relationship in future.Thus there will be anger,resentment,helplessness and disgust ,these reactions should be understood and steps shall be taken to strengthen the relationship ensuring the jealous couple with honesty and love.

Strongly i suggest, jealousy as an emotion seen only in true love as the person in love want him/her not to be shared physically and emotionally to anyone.When your supposed partner doesn’t cares what you do or who you roll with and you misunderstand that its due to trust or security then you are totally wrong.Either he/she doesn’t love you enough or he / she has separate partner elsewhere. A couple genuinely loving each other will never deceit the partner and progressively work towards a stronger lifetime relationship which is the foundation for a stronger family and society. So acknowledge your partners jealousy and feel proud that he/she loves you so much that your diverted focus made her/him so disturbed. Never think it as your partners dominance over you until it leads to physical or psychological abuse, as generally people think it as a sign of dominance.

Courtesy to :1).Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jealousy

                     2).http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monogamy

                     3).http://www.importantindia.com/2832/monogamy-in-hinduism-hindu-monogamy/
 
                 
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2 Responses to Is jealousy a sign of true love ?

  1. PIUSHA SINGH WRITES: ” Strongly i suggest, jealousy as an emotion seen only in true love as the person in love want him/her not to be shared physically and emotionally to anyone.When your supposed partner doesn't cares what you do or who you roll with and you misunderstand that its due to trust or security then you are totally wrong.Either he/she doesn't love you enough or he / she has separate partner elsewhere.A couple genuinely loving each other will never deceit the partner and progressively work towards a stronger lifetime relationship which is the foundation for a stronger family and society. So acknowledge your partners jealousy and feel proud that he/she loves you so much that your diverted focus made her/him so disturbed. Never think it as your partners dominance over you until it leads to physical or psychological abuse,as generally people think it as a sign of dominance.”
    WILLIAMSJI WRITES:
    The real love, intimacy and close relationships between male and female go hand in hand. Love is the bodily, emotional, touching, sexual, intellectual, or social affection one person holds for or with another. Concepts related to love include adore, desire, prefer, possess, care for, serve, and even worship. Intimacy, on the other hand, is a close relationship where mutual acceptance, nurturing, and trust are shared at some level. In order to understand love in human relationships, you must first understand how the self either enhances or inhibits your capacity to love.
    Dear Piusha Singh, this is a good article to think and to share, My applause, my regards, my love

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  2. Piusha Singh says:

    Thank you William for finding time to review my writeup.I 'm honored.

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